I was commenting on a blog [www.ladyngo.blogspot.com] the post was about waiting to have sex on your wedding night...you know, stuffs that would interest/motivate virgins. That was when I realised something...it doesn't matter if you were a virgin or not, aborted, of even gone platinum rounds with your sex life. The fact/truth was your wedding night would be the first time you would have sex with your wife/husband.
It reminds me of a saying, why try so hard to survive- you are never going to leave this world alive. The similarity I see is that you put so much effort to achieve something despite the fact that the outcome can't be changed. So now you know, but I don't expect you to agree with me. Even if I've gone all positions with my chic, our wedding night would be the first time I have sex/make love to her as my wife. So technically why should I save myself for a wife when I know we would be our firsts on the wedding night regardless. I'm a marriage virgin.
I like this post.
ReplyDeleteI followed your link from TNC out of curiosity and this post sounded very sensible.
I think people (that are saving it) are a bit more moved by the fact that it would be their first time having sex ever, than just it being their first time they have sex as husband and wife. But thats just a guess cuz my maidenhead was chopped off some time ago lol #ShakespeareReference
ReplyDeleteSmh for you....really your first time on ur wedding night...I like how u try to rationalize d act....on a second thought it sounds sensible but don't give boys d new line to use on girls "after all our wedding night wud our first so let's continue jor" really...
ReplyDeleteReligion usually plays a strong role. Sex is special to some people, esp girls. It's nice to have that one person you've been with...it's just sad that most guys turn out to be jerks. I think people need to be more open-minded towards virgins, at the end of the day they mean well
ReplyDelete@Anonymous I'm guessing you are young. My advice...just be yourself.
ReplyDeleteInteresting point you make here...but i think 'saving yourself matters cause you'll be coming into marriage free of baggages from former relationships.
ReplyDeletelol@Funmie's comment. So true
Nothing beats the very first time.
ReplyDeleteIf a girl means to have just one man as husband during her lifetime it would help for her to go to him a virgin. That first time forms a strong bond and etches very powerful impressions about the sexual act and sexuality unto her mind. If her husband is her first, it's more likely he'll be her only; baring death making her a widow.
It's a little similar for men, save that males are more easily rewired as regards their impressions on sex and sexuality. And, most males would gladly sacrifice the beauty of that bond for the confidence that comes with having experience (who doesn't want to be his wife's guide to "secret pleasures" on that first night).
Ade, leave all them virgins alone - thatz until you marry one.
@Kume...I go leave the virgins alone.
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