I realized this as I took time out to think about the situation I was in with so many girls around me. Yes, I had them many but a significant percentage of them do not want to date me. So you could say I was placed in the friend zone most of the time. I also realized I got to sex most of them after a year [more or less] of being in the friend zone. Not that we were in any relationship, it just happened. A whole lot of them found it difficult to let me go after that, it became my turn to put them in the friend zone. The question now is what did I do differently for the sudden change to occur?
The truth was most girls were selfish and the friend zone was the best way to eat their cake and have it. A guy in the friend zone was like the bastard child of a male friend and a boyfriend that had no idea where he belonged. The girl expects the guy to treat her like a boyfriend but obey the proxemic rules of a male friend. Sure you can buy her a dress, but you can't sit around to watch her change into it. I realized I was doing such until the great epiphany after a girl that had placed me in the friend zone said she had 'dispadi' me. By that she meant I was no more a close friend. I was the one that made contact after a while only for her to complain about that. I asked her two questions. First, tell me what I had to lose? Second, tell me one thing you've done for me when I was your 'padi'? I had to admit it wasn't just with this babe but so many others. The practically had nothing to offer yet expect things in return. I had to change that. I noticed these girls that placed me on the friend zone never called or visit but every time I did they used that as an opportunity to demand for something. Like they had been expecting my call to foot the bill of something. That also had to change.
I came to the realization I shouldn't fulfill any desire of any girl that placed me in the friend zone. That was the one of the steps to place them in the friend zone. I flipped their expectations. I still respect the proxemic rules of any of their typical male friend but I let them see things I did with other girls. Things I knew they would love to experience.
Since I had no more expectation I was comfortable to tell the girls my experiences. One of such girls visited me once. She was around when a sure babe called me she was coming over for a match fixture. A typical guy in the friend zone would have considered how to politely discharge the babe but not me. I politely told her she had to leave because I had a babe coming over for a match. She was shocked because she never expected me to walk her out because of another babe. That night, the babe I walked out called me to ask how many rounds I did and if I enjoyed it. She began to talk that sex talk until she had a firsthand experience.
Another babe that placed me in the friend zone requested I take her to the cinema. "No problem," I replied. She came over that day all dressed up and I told her the date wouldn't be possible because I was broke. I had to tell her I gave all I had to a chic who was interested in dating me to fix her hair. That statement changed the way we related. She didn't get angry but saw me as 'responsible'.
I noticed when these girls saw the way I treated other girls [except them] they change. I didn't have to do better than their boyfriend, like I said, girls are selfish and that lack of attention gets to them. Especially when I stay close to them but kept looking at another direction [literally and figuratively]
Truth is, I don't give a damn about a girl that once exploited my position when I was placed in the friend zone and they found themselves there. A girl had the balls to say, "Yes I had a boyfriend but I wanted you to prove you really like me". I told her, "Babe, I am not an option". I was placed in the friend zone to be assessed if I would turn out good I become better than their expectation and move on. Now I have a few doing the calling and I'm proud to say "you are my very good friend". If they like, they could use chlorophyll to rub their pussy I don't give a damn. Ladies, welcome to the friend zone.