Because I Can VERSUS Because I Need

I have this sense of maturity that feels like I've gained an 'experience point' in my life. This experience point was based on a question about why I should get involved in certain activities in the first place. The question was "Am I doing this because I can or because I need it?" Fact is I've always had the question in my head but it was more theoretical than practical. Now, I find myself acting more on it.



I remember back in the University of Lagos, there were students who took courses or discipline because they could and not because they needed it. All because a student was intelligent he went for difficult disciplines like Engineering or Law, disregarding the fact there was no passion for it. People tend to believe they had to utilise all their resources and most times push themselves pass their limit before they felt they were achieving something. To those people, I say life isn't always supposed to be hard...no pain isn't always no gain.



I noticed I had exercised getting involved in what I need and not what I could from the way I handled relationships. I've been [happily] single for the large percentage of the year. The issue was not with meeting girls I could date. I meet girls virtually everyday but I couldn't deceive myself I wanted to date 'em. The most we could share was sex and it doesn't worth it. I can't motivate myself to use 'sweet words' on girls with the aim of getting into her pants. I mean...I could but I don't need it, not the stage I'm in right now. There were few girls I would have love to date but they bring up a wall that I could break through but I don't need it. I could fight for love but not to get a girl that won't give me a chance. If she plays hard to get I move ahead.


I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me...but I won't because I could. I rather focus...and do all things that strengthens me through Christ.